Maybe off-topic, but synchronistic: Two recent articles seem to connect over Self-Blame in New Age and in Self-Help

Maybe off-topic, but synchronistic: Two recent articles seem to connect over Self-Blame in New Age at “New Age Bullies” by Julia Ingram (via Bethany Moore) and in Self-Help at “Self-Blame and Self-Help” by Ofer Sharone (via Tikkun)

“During my 36 years as a psychotherapist, I’ve seen many clients who have been victims of people like those Hannah and my friend describe. I call them New Age Bullies — those who, sometimes with the best intentions, repeat spiritual movement shibboleths, with little understanding of how hurtful their advice can be. Some of their favorite clichés are:

It happened for a reason.
Nobody can hurt you without your consent.
I wonder why you created this illness (or experience).
It’s just your karma.
There are no accidents.
There are no victims.
There are no mistakes.

A variant of this behavior is found in the self-bullying people who blame themselves for being victims of a crime, accident, or illness and interpret such misfortunes as evidence of their personal defects or spiritual deficiencies.” — Julia Ingram [via]

“Beyond subjective pain and job search discouragement, the most significant effect of self-blame is that it inhibits our collective capacities to imagine and seek transformative possibilities. The self-help description of reality fills our imaginations with highly individualized images, and obscures the larger context. It misses the fact that even if every American job seeker mastered the art of self-presentation, there would still be a wide disparity between the number of job seekers and the jobs available, as well as extreme scarcity of jobs that offer meaning and security. A real solution must be collective in nature.” — Ofer Sharone [via]